When in school, a romantic relationship is all about heart emojis, the bunking classes to waiting for each other post school hours. However, with time taking a toll on romantic bonding, such relationships often pass through turbulent times. Emerging out of all odds is what makes ‘puppy love’ grow into a lifetime bond. A few relationships sail through while some bite the dust! Many people look back fondly on their high school love but some are fortunate enough to be sitting right across the table every night.
The beauty of a relationship that dates back to your school days is beyond words. The connection is such that you know each other’s quirks and tells even with the movement of an eye. Experiencing all the wonderful, horrible, boring and embarrassing moments in the formative years together certainly are the major building blocks to a relationship of a lifetime. However, like every relationship has a flipside to it, it happens that such relationships also end up biting the dust.
The Brighter Side
So let’s dig into the beautiful aspects of getting married to your school-time lover. There is so much that a person has to do to get noticed by the person he/she admires. But, with a person you have known for so long, you can just be your natural self; no fake expressions or forced habits.
- No Tinder, No Blind Dates: The hassle of convincing yourself to go in for a blind date is not easy. Going on a date with your school-time sweetheart is more of a time to remember your older meetings and dates.
- Being together in those awkward teenage years: You don’t get embarrassed due to petty things as you may have stumbled,flipped and faced each other several times in several awkward situations back in school.
- Experiencing important milestones together: Right from the transition from adolescence to adulthood to experiencing several challenges in life; you have done it all together.
Deal Breakers
Your love might be over-the-top during your teens but now it is certainly not that exciting. You always feel that fading charm in the relationship. And, here is an alarming stage in any relationship. It is common to witness changes in a relationship as and when you grow. However, if you are able to cope with it, you are through else there surely comes a dead-end. Relationship expert Dr Kamal Khurana asserts, “I have come across several cases where couples find it difficult to adjust to the changing needs of their partners. With time, age and experience, expectations tend to change and school-time sweethearts tend to fail the test of time and changes.”
Durability Issue
Going as per the trend, most of the teenage relationships inevitably end; wither by force or by the nature of young love. Most of the times, graduating high schoolers eventually leave for their chosen university which can be out of town or out of state to prepare for future careers. Or meeting new people at university replace old friends and relationships nurtured during high school. And then you have the ‘economics’ argument. How can two young people, no matter how in love they are with each other, pursue and sustain their feelings for each other when neither is financially prepared to aspire for the living arrangements that their older counterparts are more capable of doing ?
Relationship Boosters
- Connect: No TV, no cellphones, iPads, Macbooks, Androids or iPad minis; just the two of you. Even if you hang out regularly or live together, which you probably do if you are in a long-term, monogamous relationship, pinpoint a certain time every week or even in the day for just the two of you. Talk about the changes witnessed in both the partners. Be open to discussions and don’t let misunderstanding linger for long.
- Don’t be naked every time: Being intimate is great but just being intimate can make things boring on a longer run. People tend to forget that the real deal-maker is the conversation between the two and not the bodies all the time. With time, physical intimacy tends to take a backseat and emotional connect is the main source of longevity.
- Spontaneous: Spontaneity is the one thing that keeps anything in life from becoming stale. Surprise each other now and then! Almost everyone loves surprises. Even if they say they don’t they are probably just trying to spare their own feelings for when you don’t surprise them. Let your relationship date back to years but never forget to surprise your partner.
- Kiss and communicate: Kissing is beautiful. Kissing is something that helps two people feel connected, loved and sometimes even horny. This is something that a lot of couples take advantage of. That excitement to kiss your partner is beautiful and let that spark remain active for years together.
In all, love is a feeling very surreal. Be it a teenager or an adult, lasting relationships are possible. However, one needs to work hard towards making it work. No relationship is easy; and the happiness that a couple gets when they meet or the anxiety they felt during the transition time or the pain they feel when the relationship is turbulent is the same at every levels of a relationship.
